While it might seem as though hearing the same stories over and over again, research from Queen’s University, Ontario, suggests that such repeated stories can actually help older members of the family communicate what they believe is important to their children.

The study, which analyzed nearly 200 collected stories, revealed that older parents tend to repeatedly tell approximately 10 stories to their adult children.

The hypothesis was that this repetition is a means of passing down values across generations. By examining the themes of these recurrent stories, the researchers aimed to uncover the underlying messages and meanings that elders are communicating to their loved ones. Their ultimate goal was to provide a fresh and positive perspective on stories that may otherwise be seen as concerning.

Storytelling habits

The research suggests that people tend to repeat around 10 stories. While this is not a definitive number, it is a rough estimate of the number of stories that are frequently retold. The interviewees felt that a selection of approximately 10 stories was sufficient to accurately convey their parent’s tales.

The significance of the 10 stories lies not in the specific details, but in the valuable lessons or values that are reinforced through them, such as loyalty, family, humor in difficult times, education, standing up against injustice, and doing what is right.

The themes in these stories reflect the significant events and values of the early to mid-20th century. Many of them revolve around war experiences and the process of immigrating to Canada, starting with little and striving for a better life through hard work. They also reflect a more formal time when it was important to maintain standards, make a good impression, know one’s place, and follow the rules.

The stories elders tell are tailored to the specific person they are telling them to and would likely differ if they were shared with a different child, spouse, or friend.

A crucial role

Storytelling is a fundamental human process and a common experience that is associated with aging. According to neuroscientists, storytelling has practical survival benefits for individuals and communities, as well as providing social and psychological benefits.

It may be as effective as medication or therapy in overcoming depression among the elderly. Storytelling becomes particularly crucial when individuals are faced with their own mortality, such as during illness, suffering, or nearing the end of life.

People may repeat stories, not because of a decline in cognitive function, but because the stories hold significant meaning and they believe it is important for others to hear them. Repeating stories is not a sign of forgetfulness or dementia, but rather an attempt to impart important information and values.